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hey yos. ain't gonna post much today, very tired, want sleep liaos

went for dinner at suntec city, and its surprisingly not crowded, maybe all the peeps flock to vivocity or ion orchard liaos. btw jiajian was at ion, was sms-ing him just now. it appears that he has got new shoes and is suspected to be wearing a girl shirt LOL

anyways, dinner was at new york new york. and i must say, they GIVE TOO MUCH FRIES. really, its like a total overload. almost every order got fries with it de. and the ginormous burger for 4 ppl is deceiving, the pic in the menu no fries, then serve that time got hell lotta fries sia. so many fries until my family and i had to ask them to pack it up then bring back home LOL

anyways the chinadude was with us, what a bad taint to the family mood haiyos..anyway i shall not elaborate here, i shall talk more about this guy next time haha

hmm, in the meantime, i shall post something educational here, as jiajian does on his blog haha, just something short luh


LoveStuffs : Rejection

When you're trying to get into a relationship, you must first understand that even if you love someone, it does not mean that the person must love you back. You can give all the love you have to that special person BUT, if that person does not like you in "that way" or have any such feelings, he/she just can't. If he/she does not love you, there may not be a reason for it. Maybe you're the nicest guy in the world or the most caring and cute girl on this planet, but, if that person dosen't love you, he/she simply does not. It is UNEXPLAINABLE. People can not like a particular person because he has a bad habit, or looks ugly, or has character issues. But when there isn't much things flawed, it is unexplainable if that special someone does not choose to get with you. In that case, you should learn to accept the fact that the two of you can't be together, or simply wait for feelings to appear, grow and nurture. Its a choice between the two paths. So one should not whine or complain if there isn't any love coming back from who he/she is giving their love to. Its simply fate, or maybe you did something wrong.

However, (siala this is like history essay lols)

The least, the very least, that person you're trying to love can do, is to let you know. Okay lets say that you confessed and tried to do things to the best of your ability to show him/her that you love him/her. But he/she does not have the same feelings for you. But he/she does not want to hurt your feelings so he/she does not reject you on the spot. So he/she keeps quiet and keep you hanging on for an answer. You're clinging on to a thinning rope but you're still alive. You feel like you're dying because of all the negative signs but still dare to continue hoping because of positive memories. Now I understand how that hurt. I know.

So, again, its a choice. Would you rather be ignored, neglected, and untold of everything which matters to you? Then you will be suffering slowly. Confused, slightly angry, and feel emo and uncertain about what may happen the next day, and the next, and the next. You are hanging on because there's a bit of hope but you feel like giving up because there is only a bit of hope.

OR

Would you rather be told directly the truth of how he/she feels? Then it will be like being shot on the spot in the heart. As all the painful truth comes crashing into you head on like a speeding train called Heartbreak Express. Then maybe you will feel like the world is over, and everything is pointless. Yes, you can never ever recover from wounds made by love. Even though love wounds never heal completely, they heal slowly nevertheless. So after some time of intense self-satisfactory emo (credits to jiajian), you will pick yourself up, and get on with life. As usual, as normal, as before. I'm pretty sure some of you out there know the feeling of break-up. And I see all of you recover and get on after some time of emo. So its nothing to worry about.

So, its again a choice between being slowly cut and bleed, or being shot quickly. But this choice is not in your hands. It's in the hands of the person you're trying to get together with. So for those people out there who have this dreadful responsibility on your back, make your choice wisely. I'm sure you do not want to hurt your friend's feelings, but I'm also sure you want to let him/her know the truth and get this burden off your back and his/her back too. So show him/her some respect, treat him/her like a human being, regard and acknowledge his/her efforts and love. Tell him/her what you feel and I'm sure thats what he/she wants, even if it hurts him/her. At the end of the day, lies hurt more than the truth. If that person truly loves you, then he/she should agree that your choice must be respected, and that love cannot be forced, and he/she is happy that maybe you will find more happiness elsewhere with someone else.

But does all that run through your mind when you make that choice?